Answer (Dr. Gary Chapman): I remember in the early years of my marriage when I was plagued with the thought: Have I married the wrong person? And one of the reasons I was plagued with that thought is because we argued all of the time. Before marriage I don’t ever remember us arguing. I was willing…
John became very defensive when his wife, Mary, asked him why he didn’t help her around the house more often. Do I constantly ask you to get a job to help out with our finances?” he raged. Stung by his criticism, she struck back, “Are you saying that taking care of the kids is not…
Recently, my fiancé, Jacob and I attended a festival. The festival wasn’t my cup of tea but Jacob loved it. Just as I participate in activities that he’s interested in, Jacob has patiently run the sound and media for many of my drama productions and has watched romantic comedies with me when he would rather be…
Over the past 4 years, I have attempted to grow a vegetable garden in our yard. It’s been a failure, but only by the number of harvestable plants. What hasn’t failed is the process of illuminating personal areas in my life that need attention. I’m glad to learn, but I still want to harvest fruits…
I’ve often watched my parents, of over 30 years, interact with each other as if they were still dating. Their whispers, knowing smiles passed between each other, stolen kisses and my father’s gaze on my mother—as if it was the first time he’d ever laid eyes on her—eventually peaked my curiosity. I asked my mother…
