Even the toughest guy in the world prefers safety to vulnerability. That’s why the Roman Legion carried shields. It’s natural to seek one’s own security. But that should only be when the Visigoths are attacking. It shouldn’t mean withdrawing emotionally when things get tough in a relationship and the stones and arrows start flying. Unfortunately, on a spiritual and emotional level, men got rewired to run away…
Have you ever forgotten to take out your garbage on collection day? Remember the result? First, an unpleasant odor. Then, a stench. And then, unwanted creatures such as gnats, flies, or maggots appear. The failure to properly dispose of our waste spawns all kinds of undesirable and unhealthy conditions. Similarly, failure to deal with our…
I don’t believe most women are natural arguers, I think they are reasonable skeptics. They require more convincing than men—since most men think highly of their own judgment, believing anything they came up with themselves, or will solve a problem quickly so they don’t have to deal with it. Women often, sensibly enough, require reasons…
You’re a really great person. Let’s just be friends.” I hate that line. I hear those words and immediately regret all the things I did to impress the guy saying them. The new haircut and highlights. The pedicures. The makeup. The cute dress. The matching shoes. I wish I’d never done any of it…and I…
As a child Liza learned that love is a feeling that comes and goes. When she was eight, her parents divorced and told her, We are no longer in love with each other.” Liza internalized the message that major life decisions, like whether or not to stay married, are based primarily on feelings. When she…
