Fear almost cost me my marriage. No, divorce was never an option; at least in the legal sense. But we were divorced in an emotional sense. Did you know that you can be emotionally divorced from your spouse? When trust is injured, vulnerability wounded and intimacy scarce, emotional divorce occurs. Like a small turtle who crept out of his…
If you think of marriage as a car, the metaphor of maintenance is one of the more obvious parallels that comes to mind. We don’t change our oil, rotate our tires, and buy expensive insurance plans because we need those things today. We do it because we know future cost will be worse if we…
Last summer we finally got around to putting up a zip line in our back yard. Not surprisingly, the kids were thrilled. It took them a little time to get used to trusting the run, but more importantly to not freaking out about the fear of slamming into the tree at the end of the…
I read a quote on Twitter recently (where better to find them, right?) which said, “Shame says, I hate me. Discipline says, I’ve got to fix me. God says, I love you; let me restore you.” @ChristinaMarlin While this quote is SO good on its own, and for us as individuals, it also speaks volumes…
It’s easy to miss the parental sway one holds when a child innocently and sweetly says, “When I grow up, I want to marry Mom (or Dad).” Parental relationship role models have a profound and lasting affect on children, as they will form the same pattern in love as you have with your spouse when…
